To the lovely person who is on the hamster wheel of confusion and exhaustion in a loved ones addiction or problematic behaviour...
Youâre carrying more than anyone realises.
You are trying to work through this chaos and confusion in private, behind closed doors because it doesnât feel safe to talk to anyone.Â
You are exhausted wearing all the hats that life requires of you, and you have extra responsibilities on your shoulders because your spouse isnât doing their part.
You are at your wits end and have zero patience left for your children, and end up yelling at them most days. You are tired.
Work is getting the bare minimum and you are constantly on the proverbial edge with constant worries about what your spouse is doing and what tonight, this weekend, the kids birthday party is going to look like and what they âmight doâ...
You hold your breath⌠a lot. Just waiting for something to happen, or not happen. You never know what the day is going to look like so you donât plan things anymore. Not holidays, or dinners out with friends. You canât remember the last time you had people overâŚ
You feel like a shell of yourself, your confidence is at an all time low and you donât know what to have for breakfast some days⌠making even small decisions feels insurmountable - so how could you possibly make bigger decisions if necessary.
You just wait and hope⌠that something will change. That they will change and things will get better, and you realise how many years you have been waiting and hoping and wonder how many years you can continue to have life on hold.
So maybe you've tried...
All the things I've tried, and possibly more!
I was doing the begging, pleading, yelling and detective work and finding that life was getting more chaotic and more out of control.
I had tried every so-called bit of advice and âsolutionsâ in the book and nothing was workingâŚÂ I reached a point where something had to change. And thatâs when I began to take control of my life and turn my life in a better direction, for me and my family. And today? I am present in my life, I have drowned out the chaos and noise and can hear my own opinion and voice loud and clear. I am in the drivers seat.
I see you, I know youâve already done the pleading for them to change, the detective work and trying harder every day to do something that âworksâ, and you are feeling exhausted, confused and stuck.
This is a 3 day workshop to get you the knowledge you need, and the self confidence to take the next right step forward for you.
Bottom line:Â
Youâre looking for validation and certainty about what is going on in your life and what you can do about it.
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This isnât a magic bullet to bring you overnight change. Itâs not âwe canât control itâ sit around the fire chat and focus on every single thing that is out of our control. Itâs not one size catch all of you must do everything within this framework. Â
đ đťââď¸ And no, this workshop isnât going to tell you to âjust focus on youâ or âjust leave themâ, or âdetach with loveâ, or other one liner platitudes with no actionable steps.
đ đťââď¸Â And no, this isnât going to be just another thing on your already full plate - I know how big life is right now.
đ đťââď¸Â And no, this isnât going to be another workshop that only delivers results for a bit.. This is building foundations for life and will continue to give back long into the future.
But what it is?
âď¸ It is a private place to get support and to breathe - that you arenât alone here.Â
âď¸Â It is a place to be inspired about what is possible and to learn what is really going on now in your life and what you CAN actually do. Because you can do a lot here, youâve just been told too many times youâre powerless (and guess how that shows up in your day to day behaviour?)Â
âď¸Â Itâs a workshop to lay the foundations of confidently mapping out your next smallest steps, whatever they look like.
I'm Amanda
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I am possibly not your typical person sitting in this seat of an addiction relationship coach⌠I was a corporate accountant through and through, I studied 4 years at university and then went on to get my professional certifications. It was while in my corporate career and new Mum(Mom) life that I stumbled into a crazy world, where I was confused more often than not and slowly my life became unrecognisable and unmanageable. But I was âsmartâ so surely I should be able to figure it out by myself (because I darenât speak to anyone about it⌠no way) But I couldnât figure it out⌠Whatever I thought would help, or what made sense to me, didnât help, in fact it sometimes made things worse. Â
I was at breaking point, and so I reached out for help. And it took years of trial and error, âhelpâ that wasnât helpful, âhelpâ that was judgement, âhelpâ that felt really ick and shaming, âhelpâ that caused more damage in my relationship⌠until I finally pieced together what worked and what actually helped. Â
I know you are a capable and lovely switched on person. I know you care deeply about those around you and I know you want life to be better than what it is now. Iâve been there, and I can help. All my program resources, tools and strategies are founded in kindness and evidenced based practices that are proven to help - I wanted that and I know you do too.
I am here because spouses and families deserve better support. Support that actually helps. And when spouses and families get better support, everyone wins.
What You Can Expect
Session #1 Understand what's Really Going On
- Recognise the patternsâboth theirs and yoursâand how theyâre impacting your life.
- Learn how addiction shows up in behaviour, and why it feels so confusing.
- Finally start to make sense of whatâs happening in your home.
- Walk away with clarity, language, and a massive exhale.
Session #2 Whatâs Helping⌠and Whatâs Hurting
- Unpack the thoughts and reactions keeping you stuck.
- Spot whatâs workingâand whatâs notâwhen it comes to helping them and yourself.
- Learn what to stop doing, what to start doing, and what to do differently.
- Begin creating space in your life that supports you.
Session #3: Confidence, Calm & Your Next Small StepÂ
- Get clear on what actually helpsâand feels goodâfor you to do next.
- Build calm confidence with simple, doable mindset shifts.
- Replace guilt and overthinking with clear steps forward.
- Leave with a plan, a breath, and a whole new sense of steadiness.
After our three hours together...
You'll be crystal clear on whatâs going in your life right now and the motivation with a plan to take the next smallest steps that are right for you, with a soul-deep confidence boost that you will be ok no matter what happens next.
What's Included...
âď¸Â 3 x 1 hour workshops with Amanda (Lifetime access)
âď¸Â  A private and safe place to get clarity on the confusion with your next smallest steps
âď¸Â  Optional 1:1 45minute coaching session (with one week of text/voice note support)
When...
You choose the when and the where. This Workshop is in your pocket for you to watch and 'do' at a time that suits you. Â
Listen/watch small snippets at a time, and you'll be able to come back to right where you left off.
Discovery to Recovery
The 3 part workshop series for spouses and family members to become confident in your understanding of what is going on for you and your loved one, rise above the external noise and step forward in your life.
Itâs Time To Kick Confusion to the Curb
Do you know what's really going on? Are you confident in how to show up each day for yourself and your family? Or is it all feeling confusing and overwhelming, and some days you don't know which way is up?
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Look, Iâve been there. Right where you are.Â
I eventually worked out that my loved one had a problem and it was really confusing and exhausting.Â
I spent so many years of time, energy and financial resources trying to âfixâ that problem, that I kept saying no to myself and working on getting my confidence, and getting myself in a better and stronger place. Why? Because I was scared. Scared of what it would mean if I got support for myself, scared that it would make it âmoreâ real, that my loved one would âfind outâ and that getting support for me made me selfish.
And take it from me - it only got worse. It took me reaching a really low point in the rollercoaster of addiction before I recalibrated and took (small) steps forward in getting myself back on tract so that I was better for myself and better for my family - armed with tools and strategies that actually worked. Â
I donât want that for you.
Session #1 Understand what's Really Going On
- Recognise the patternsâboth theirs and yoursâand how theyâre impacting your life.
- Learn how addiction shows up in behaviour, and why it feels so confusing.
- Finally start to make sense of whatâs happening in your home.
- Walk away with clarity, language, and a massive exhale.
Session #2 Whatâs Helping⌠and Whatâs Hurting
- Unpack the thoughts and reactions keeping you stuck.
- Spot whatâs workingâand whatâs notâwhen it comes to helping them and yourself.
- Learn what to stop doing, what to start doing, and what to do differently.
- Begin creating space in your life that supports you.
Session #3 Confidence, Calm & Your Next Small
- Get clear on what actually helpsâand feels goodâfor you to do next.
- Build calm confidence with simple, doable mindset shifts.
- Replace guilt and overthinking with clear steps forward.
- Leave with a plan, a breath, and a whole new sense of steadiness.
It's nearly the end of the scroll, my friend. So it's time to make a decision...
Imagine yourself at the end of June, making plans and following through on them⌠No longer living in a constant state of fear, worry and anxiety, but feeling hopeful for whatâs possible. Imagine living in reality of whatâs going on AND working towards better, for you and your family.
After working through this 3 part workshop series, you will feel more grounded in your knowing, empowered and confident - knowing that you will be ok, no matter what with some easy to use tools and strategies that will help you take those next small steps forward.
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And hereâs your friendly reminder (with a hug). You get to choose.Â
You get to choose the status quo or move towards something better. You are free to continue on as things are now (and Iâm guessing if youâve read this far, you are unhappy with how things are now!) or you can do something different and come and join me in this 3 part workshop series and work towards that better life that you deserve.
The choice is yours, my friend!
I am ready to stand alongside you and cheer you on, and give you the tools to take the first steps forwards, whatever that looks like.
And with my promise to you of a full refund, there's truly nothing to lose!
So why not take the leap and join me for this courageous step forward in the Discovery to Recovery Workshop?
Amanda Xx
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Answers to your Questions
I'm literally so time-poor it's not even funny. What if I don't have time for this?
I'm worried about my privacy
I loved this workshop and want to do more! What other programs do you offer?
Are my results guaranteed?
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If you are just here, in the thick of it, Discovery to Recovery is a brilliant place to start.
If you want to talk more about the Pathway to Wellness Program or 1:1 coaching with me, book in a friendly chat and we'll work out what makes sense for you.